Love & Relationship Advice

... carried on: starting to like him and from what I can gather he likes me too. The only problem is he still sees his ex a lot. She goes round his home some nights while he spends the day with me since we both study similar subjects at school. I don't know what to do about this. I want to press forward and move 'us' along but I don't know the situation with his ex. He's not a player or a awful guy, he's just stuck. And doesn't have the heart to let one of us down and go with the other. HELP!

Thu, 07 Mar 2013 15:18:46 -0500

That’s complicated, but sooner or later he has to decide! He probably doesn’t like his girlfriend anymore but feels bad about dumping her completely or being rude to her. He seems like a nice guy. I would advise you to talk to him about the situation. If you’re sure he likes you back there’s no big deal. If you don’t have the nerve to do this you can ask him about his ex, if he still likes her and what’s the deal with her. If he says he doesn’t like her but doesn’t want to hurt her by cutting her off you should encourage him not to talk to her anymore, let him know that he isn’t helping her getting over him and if it bugs him that she keeps coming back to see him he should start by beginning to be more unavailable for her. If he wants to have any affection with you that’s the fist thing he’s gotta do, she’s gotta go.

Basically I've been friends with this guy for 3 years and as of late we've started to flirt back and forth openly in front of all our friends. His feelings are somewhat obvious, whenever he hugs me it's always longer and more intimately than other girls he hugs and he texts me out of the blue and will just be really sweet and caring in general. He also once told me on a night out that I rock his world and that we'll be such a good couple when we go off to study at university. I'm really starting

Thu, 07 Mar 2013 15:12:47 -0500

part 1....A couple months ago started talking to this guy I had met. We talked everyday almost all day. We both really liked each other. One night we decided to Skype and we only got to Skype for 25 mind and then he had to go do something with his roommate. I texted him the next day and he was slow to respond and short with me all day. I asked him to Skype again later he said he couldn't. I knew he was lying and had my friend ask him to Skype and he said sure.

Thu, 07 Mar 2013 14:18:01 -0500

Sorry but he’s not interested. He was at first but lost interest later. Some people are like this, when they realize that you like them as well they loose interest. So what I advise you to do is forget about him and look for someone who likes you and won’t lose interest once they see you like him too! Good luck!

I've been with my boyfriend for over a year, and I've always known he's had problems with depression and controlling his emotions and paranoia. He doesn't like any other guys to hang around me, or even go near me, he turned up one day with cuts all down his arm, and he recently informed me that he's taking medication for severe depression. He can also get incredibly angry, but he's never directed anything at me, as he says he'll never hurt me... But I still worry about him hurting me, or himself

Thu, 07 Mar 2013 14:16:13 -0500

Sweetie I don’t blame you for being worried. You should worry. He likes you and he won’t hurt you, but he has to be treating himself and he has to take it seriously. Is he on heavy medication? How often does he sees his psychiatrist? Is he under control now? What about his parents? Do they worry about him? Is he seeing a shrink? He has to!

You have to help him in any possible way now that he’s going through this, try not to make him angry and talk to him whenever you see that he’s not well. Try to find a way to calm him down when he gets upset and make sure he’s on meds and has a behavior of a normal person 85 to 90% of the time. If you don’t trust him and you feel that you shouldn’t be with him then go with your gut. But try to help him anyway, because depressions are very hard to deal with and if you “abandon” him it my worsen.

21, F. I like this guy A, & he likes me. But it’s really complicated. See he used to have a crush on one of my close friends B, & likewise. But it didn't work out cause they both had partners at the time, & A couldn't bring himself to break up with his gf. Eventually, me & A got rly close & we confessed feelings for each other. He has since split with his gf, and I'd like to take things a step further, but my friend B has advised me against it because of what happened to her and C. What do I do?

Thu, 07 Mar 2013 14:10:17 -0500

Hi! I liked the way you put your story. I still don’t know who C is, though.

I think you should go with your gut. Don’t listen to what B says, if you like the guy and this time he’s broken up with his girlfriend to be with you it seems he really likes you. You cannot compare yourself to B because it’s clear he didn’t like her enough. If he seems like a nice guy (and I think he does) you should give him a chance. Don’t judge him based on the past because he hasn’t done anything wrong! Good luck!

Hi. I met a boy when i was on holiday's the other day. I'm now back home and wish i had of found out something about him so we could stay in contact. We had an instant connection and i could tell he was always where i was, just watching me, not in a creepy way. I also always looked out for him. I can't stop thinking about him and i really want to find out something about him!!!!! what should i do and how could i find him? :(

Thu, 07 Mar 2013 13:59:33 -0500

OMG, first of all, don’t ever do that again so you don’t have to go through this again! How frustrating! If his interest in you was so obvious like you said it was, you could try to start a conversation with him (in a lady-not-desperate way). I think he was shy, that’s why he stared but didn’t do anything. If you’re shy too (which is my case), you could just accidentally bump into him or something.

Now it’s going to be really hard for you to find him, bur hard isn’t impossible! The only way for you to try to find him again or to find out something about him is to go back to the place you saw him the first time. It would be wiser to go on the same day like, let’s say you went there on a Saturday, then go on a Saturday again, or at least during the weekend. Still, if you can’t find him you can always ask around! Ask the staff about him, describe him to them and see if you can find any hints! If you don’t have the guy’s name or any info about him and you saw him in a big city, like NYC for instance, then you’re gonna have to rely on serendipity, destiny and so forth!

This will be asked as at least 2 questions-Part 1: My stomach has been in the worst of knots since about 10:30 last night.I talked to my boyfriend, everything seemed fine. We skyped for like 2 min but he had quiet time (he just graduated from BCT yesterday). After Skype things became so negative. He just stopped texting me. I waited about 15 min, still nothing so i think he was made to get off or fell asleep, so I sent him a goodnight text. 30 min after I'm on FB & see a status he had just made.

Thu, 07 Mar 2013 13:51:37 -0500

First of all, calm down!

Second, how is your relationship with this guy? Is he nice to you? Treats you well? Maybe he didn’t see your message or maybe he just needs some space. Maybe the weight of graduation has hit him and he had the need to be alone for a while. That doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you or things have changed. BTW, are you still dealing with this matter or is everything fine now? I think you wrote me awhile ago, that’s why I’m asking.

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Thu, 07 Mar 2013 13:48:18 -0500

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Tue, 20 Nov 2012 20:16:47 -0500

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So i like this guy, and I'm not close with him, we're just class mates, but we rarely see eachother. I don't think he likes me. We've only had one real convo online, but other than that, we don't really talk in class because we sit at different places, the teacher talks alot, and i'm usually late to class to get the chance to sit with him:( I guess he laughs at me when i say something stupid or like fall of a chair or something. How do i get him to notice me more/talk to me?

Mon, 01 Oct 2012 00:06:12 -0400

Talk to him! That’s the only option. You don’t have to be too excited when you talk to him, just go as you would a friend, ask him what time is it, or how long is it still gonna take till the class is over.

Another option is to try to discover what his interests are, like, basketball for instance, and then say something about that subject as if you didn’t even know he cares about it, so he would think it was a coincidence… Know what I mean?

But don’t be too aggressive, you have to go slow, he must not notice you’re trying to get to know his interests in order to approach him.

Do guys my age actually ever like girls for who they really are? like for their personalitys and what not? or do guys only want sex and boobs and ass and a nice face for all the wrong reasons? Like do guys ever actually legitimately like girls- the way girls like me guys?

Mon, 01 Oct 2012 00:02:23 -0400

Yes. that does happen. But there’s no rule, no age, no nothing. Each guy is different from the other, but I believe, the more mature, the better. Young guys in general want to have some fun first before “settling down”, so that means they will look for boobs and cute faces instead of personality. But there are exceptions to the rule, they’re just harder to find. =/

If you like someone and his/her parents are extremely controlling and he/she listens to their every word and he/she blows you off to listen to his/her parents very often, should you still give that person a chance?

Mon, 01 Oct 2012 00:00:08 -0400

If you really really really like the person, than yes, you should! Specially if she/he’s under 18 and still hasn’t gone to college, etc. Because things will certainly change after he/she goes.

In case he/she’s already older, than I guess if you can’t stand he/she listening to her/his parents than go find somebody else. He/she will find out someday that they’re wrong, but you don’t have to sit around and wait for that day.

By the way, if he/she blows you off everytime because of the parents is because he/she doesn’t like you enough to try to solve the issue with his/her parents, don’t you think?

And it is so boring being with someone with controlling parents. Specially when that person doesn’t see a problem in having parents like that.

if i'm afraid that he's going to meet someone else and forget about me, should i just ask how he feels straight out?

Sun, 30 Sep 2012 23:55:12 -0400

Sorry, I don’t have your story here, can you write me again?

Hi. okay so i need serious help. there is this guy i like, he is literally perfect for me. and we were talking last night. and we had everything in common. we hit it off right away. and i texted him this morning. he answered. i texted him. he didn't answer for like 4 hours. then answered. i texted him. and its been over 7 hours since he last texted me. i want him to like me. and I'm horrible with guys. i don't know what to do. i don't wanna seem obsessive. please help.

Sun, 30 Sep 2012 23:54:43 -0400

You cannot seem obsessive. I hate playing games but I do think it is healthy (in the beginning) being a little off limits, like, don’t anwer his messages right away. Give him some space to miss you. He has to think something like: oh, she didn’t answer my message. What could have stopped her? Is she doing more important things? Does she care about me? bla bla bla… And I think you shouldn’t text him everyday, he should text you first! But that’s just me, I’m old fashioned.

Sadly, you can’t be too available or else, 99% of the times, they’ll lose interest in you.

Good luck!

i care for him a lot. he comes home i August for 14 days and then gets deployed. Do i seem like a idiot for waiting for him. he is so serious about us that he wants to just marry me in the next year or two. but i'm NOT pushing that. i just need to know if i'm sane, at all for being with him.

Sun, 30 Sep 2012 23:51:36 -0400

You’re completely sane! You’ve known this guy for 7 years already, it’s not like a stranger came into your life and you’re waiting for him to come back to you.

If you really like him, wait for him, that’s what I would do. If you feel his feelings are real and he truly wants to be with you the waiting is going to be worth it!

i need some help. i just recently started dating a good friend of mine, we have been friends since we were 13, we are now 20. Three months ago he had a going away party because he was leaving for basic training in the army. We flirted but we didn't make anything of it. a month ago, he finally got out of basic and stationed in VA. Which is 5 hours from where i am. We decided to make it offical.

Sun, 30 Sep 2012 23:49:57 -0400

People say I'm pretty and nice and confident and stuff but I have a really hard time getting a boyfriend instead of someone who just wants to flirt/hook up. My best friend is a big-chested hot blonde and always has guys on her trail that are super sweet and nice to her, but she just ends up cheating or leaving them in the dust. How do I find a quality guy who really cares about me and wants to date, and not a jerk who wants to use it and lose it? Should I do what my friend dust and mistreat men?

Sun, 30 Sep 2012 23:49:02 -0400

I don’t think you should follow your friend’s path. That’s who she is, you’re not like her. I’m exactly like you, and I can tell you one thing I’ve learned from being this way. Self respect, self worth and great self-esteem from being different than most. It does’t matter if guys don’t notice this right now. Trust me, someday they will want a girl/woman who is worth having a relationship with and guess what? They won’t look for girls like you friend, but girls like you.

I know most guys just want to have some fun these days, but you shouldn’t change who you are because of that. Just be patient and someday, when the time is right, a quality guy who really likes you will come your way! (especially if you’re pretty and nice and confident! You’re in the right track.)

Be 100% happy with yourself (even though you are single) right now so when you find the right guy, you’ll already know who you are and you won’t try to be someone you’re not.

I think a person has to be happy with herself first before being happy with somebody else. And no boyfriend or girlfriend can make another person complete, your goal is to feel complete without a BF, and then, when you finally find him, you’ll be ready to share all that happiness with your him! Life’s so much better that way.

preferably from a guy's point of view, if not, that's cool too. my question is when a guy texts you his whereabouts and what he's up to... does that mean anything else when we're just friends? it's kinda like the beginning stage as friends, when we're texting throughout the day. i don't know if I'm thinking too much, i tend to do that :\

Sun, 30 Sep 2012 23:39:01 -0400

Hahahahahahahha, I def think you’re thinking too much. If you like this girl and you’re in the “friends zone” just do whatever you think a friend would do. Don’t overthink what she’s going to get from your message. My answer is, no, if a friend texts me his whereabouts and what he’s been up to I won’t think there’s anything else than the “just friends” thing going on! Except if you text her like, everyday, and she’s not responding. Know what I mean?

Hey! I have a super long question and i seriously need help! So I like this boy at my school,we're best friends because we've known each other since the fifth grade! We have been flirting and "talking" for a really long time... almost a year. I recently found out that I am moving across the country and I feel like we are running out of time. I really want to be together but he is so shy that I don't know if he'll ask me! So what should I do?

Sun, 30 Sep 2012 23:35:58 -0400

If the two of you are friends and you know he feels the same way about you but his shyness is an issue, than I say GO FOR IT! It seems the two of you really are running out of time, so I think you should try and tell him how you feel. Talk to him, don’t rush and don’t get over excited but explain to him how you feel. You should pick a place where you know the two of you like and are used to go. I think it’s better to regret something you did than the other way around, right? So what have you got to loose, girl? If it doesn’t work out the way you want it too is because there’s something else waiting for you across the country. Good luck!!!

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Sat, 28 Jul 2012 12:25:30 -0400

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